Thursday, May 20, 2010

Help Meet

I started a new devotional today "Created to Be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl. I just want to use this blog to journal my thougts and see if it helps to work out any "kinks" I might run across in my studies.

First, let me say that although I like Debi Pearl, there has yet to be an author that I 100% agree with everything they say. Most of us are that way. We like an author/minister/layperson, but we don't agree 100% with them on 100% of what they say. That is completely ok, we are human.

I know we all(those of us married) think we have the very best guy out there. We found Mr Right/Wonderful/Perfect/you fill in your own. However, every husband sins, and every husband is born into this world a sinner. They make mistakes,(try telling this to a newlywed :-)), and you'll get "no he doesn't." And then in that dreamy tone you'll get, "he's perfect!" And at've lost her. She will be off in her la-la land of perfectness. After that "perfectness" period, it will start taking conscious efforts to make a marriage work. You will need to watch the tone of your voice, how you react, what you do when you something doesn't go as planned. This is where the work comes in on both parties, the one reacting and the one being reacted upon.

The points in this chapter that hit home were the following:

1-Do you wake each morning to make your husband happy and blessed, to serve him to the best of your ability? Are you engaged in active goodwill toward him?
*When you help your mate, you help Christ. God was the one that commissioned man with a specific purpose and designed a woman to be his help meet. When you honor your husband, you honor God. When we serve our husband, we serve God. But it also works in the fact of when we dishonor our mate, we dishonor God.

2-Is it your nature to be your husbands helper! That is why we were made.

3-To covet the role of leadership is to covet something that will not make God, you, or your man happy.
*"But she that is married careth for the things of this world, how she may please her husband." I Corinthians 7:34

4-The role of being a perfectly fit helper does not make one inferior to the leader.
*"There is no loss of dignity in subordination when it serves a higher purpose. God made you to be a help meet to your husband so you can bolster him making him more productive and efficient at whatever he chooses to do." You're NOT on the board with an = vote. You really have no authority to make decisions, or even set the agenda of your life. However, if your husband can trust you, you can be involved in all of that if HE chooses to let you. YOU have to let HIM lead.

"A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband." Proverbs 12:4

"For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." I Cor 11:8-9
In reading the verses surrounding these 2 verses, I came across something that has me thinking. Verses 3-7 talks about the covering of the head. This subject has become one of interest to me in recent months. Even though my hair is getting longer now, I find it interesting where it talks about "the woman ought to have a sign of authority on her head."(verse 10). I have seen in my brothers pictures, how the women in the Moldovan church use a lace scarf to cover their head when in the sanctuary of the church or in a "sanctuary" setting. I have been really thinking about this. Is this a sign of honor to her husband, which as in the reading today, is honoring her Lord? Maybe this is something that I should be doing. Is this a matter that should be discussed with my husband first? Is this something that I should do, even though I have just past shoulder length hair? Is this something that should be done whether or not my church agrees with it? I have a friend, that I love dearly, and her and her girls all wear head-coverings during all of their activities and at church, and I always thought how much I admire that. To me it is a symbol of service and honor. I always thing how proud her husband must be to have her do this. Now I don't know that she does it just to honor him, but it seems to me that it would go back to verse 10. I think I am going to have a talk with her about this subject and see what she says.

I still have to do the workbook portion of the devotion, but with this much info, I am thinking book and the "Time to Consider" page one day and then the workbook the next. We'll see how it goes.